Published Date: Sunday, September 8, 2019 Hi All! This week's newsletter is about Blue Zones, which are places in the world where people live the longest and free of chronic diseases. Examples include Okinawa, Sardinia, Nicoya Peninsula, and Loma Linda. Blue Zones give us guidance on how to live a long, happy, and healthy life. The sources are this interview and this Ted Talk. Here are this week's chosen learning points: Diet: 90-98% of what they eat is low-processed plant-based foods. On average, they eat meat 5 times a month and fish a few times a week. No cow dairy. They drink 6 glasses of water a day. They may drink 1-2 glasses of wine with friends over a meal. They eat mindfully and stop when 80% full. Exercise: People in blue zones don't "work out" by going to the gym a few times a week to do intense exercise. Instead, they're always moving around naturally, whether its doing housework, running errands or visiting friends. They are constantly and unconsciously doing low-intensity exercise. Companions and Community: They often belong to a tight faith-based community. They surround themselves with people who are healthy influences on them. They prioritize taking care of children and aging parents. Sense of Purpose: They can clearly articulate why they get out of bed every morning. They usually have a specific word for it, like Ikigai. Here are this week's recommended actions: Walk more. Take the stairs instead of elevators. Increase the ratio of low-processed plant-based food in your diet. Add healthy influences to your daily content intake, whether that's social media, books, or podcasts. I'm trying to do that on Twitter and Instagram! Reflect on your purpose. To learn more about Ikigai, you can check out this blog post or this Ted Talk. If you think someone else would find this newsletter useful, please forward it to them. Thanks, and have a wonderful week ahead!

This week's newsletter is about four agenda items for regularly scheduled relationship check-in meetings The original context is for significant-other relationships*, but you can apply it to any important relationship *I know you might think "It feels weird to have regularly scheduled relationship meetings with a significant But such a relationship is largely about teamwork, which requires effective communication.

with yourself, relationships with others, and your success. Ability 5: Handling Relationships To handle relationships well, we need to know how to argue and resolve The solution requires emotions intelligence, namely aspect #5, handling relationships. relationship problems, and nurturing self-confidence. But if we do it right, they will be appreciative and the relationship will improve.

Examples include Asking for a raise Ending a relationship Giving criticism Apologizing Saying no to someone

Here are this week's chosen learning points: Conflict Resolution: A relationship fight should not be success as well." - Jay Shetty Here are this week's recommended actions: The next time you're in a relationship

Published Date: Sunday, July 14, 2019 Hi All! Here are this week's chosen learning points: Bad Habits Trivia: Cracking your knuckles isn't actually bad for you. Chewing non-sweetened gum isn't bad for your teeth and can increase concentration. But biting your nails is bad because it increases the chance of skin infection under the nails. (Source) 70/30 Rule for Online Dating Profiles: 70% of your profile about you, 30% about what you're looking for. People usually don't do the latter. Consequently, they don't even know what they're looking for and so end up attracting the wrong people. (Source) Icebreaker Questions: When on a date, we shouldn't just ask icebreaker questions. We should also ask deeper questions but in a fun or interesting ways. Here are some examples (Source): Who's the most fascinating person you've met? What are you best known for among your friends? Where would your family be most surprised to find you? What's been the most significant plot twist in your life? If you unexpectedly won $10,000, how would you spend it? What's the most spontaneous thing you've done? Here are this week's recommended actions: If you crack your knuckles, you can keep on cracking! If you like to chew gum, make sure you chew unsweetened ones. If you bite your nails...maybe chew unsweetened gum instead. If you use online dating, update your profile as per bullet 2. If you're going on a date (first time or not), try using some of the questions mentioned. If you think someone else would find this newsletter useful, please forward it to them. Thanks, and have a wonderful week ahead!

(Source) Encouragement: One important thing we don't do enough in relationships is proactively telling

An example might be a past romantic relationship. But those three qualities alone aren’t enough for long-lasting relationships. We also shouldn’t let such toxic relationships transition into friendship. After talking about relationships with our close ones, Jay moves on to our relationship with the broader We should go into a romantic relationship being whole ourselves.

Image Source After venting anger, the relationship was damaged, and I then felt regret and helplessness Anger makes us feel bad afterwards, it hurts our relationship with others, and it harms our heart and Especially after all that I've given to this relationship! This applies not just to romantic relationships but to all relationships. Unfortunately, many people were not taught a "me-versus-you" mindset in relationships.

Published Date: August 18, 2019 Hi All! This week's newsletter is centered on the book Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman. The book has so many important insights, so I'm going over the usual three bullets. IQ vs. EQ: IQ contributes, at best, 20% towards a person’s success. The rest is largely EQ. Anger: One of the best ways to rid anger is to reframe the situation positively. Depression is a low-arousal state, so exercise helps lift the mood and relaxation makes it worse. Anxiety is a high-arousal state, so relaxation helps and exercise makes it worse. Empathy requires us to be calm enough such that we can mirror the other person's physiological state (literally feeling what they feel). The artful critique focuses on the person's actions not character, is specific about what needs to change, and offers a solution for improvement. In team performance, harmony is the biggest determinant. Harmony allows every member to contribute their fullest to the team. Top performers are better at three things: taking initiative, promoting cooperation, and regulating oneself emotionally. Here are this week's recommended actions: If any of the bullets were interesting to you, I recommend checking out my blog post: Emotional Intelligence - 12 minute summary. Reflect on a time you were angry, depressed, or anxious, and identify if/how you could've handled that situation better using bullets #2-4 Think of a time you gave criticism. Identify how you could've given a better criticism using bullet #6. If you need/want to update your resume or cover letter, talk about some of the characteristics mentioned in bullets #7-8 If you think someone else would find this newsletter useful, please forward it to them. Thanks, and have a wonderful week ahead!

In an interview, relationship scientists John and Julie Gottman talk about how we need to look for partners with good character for a long and happy relationship. A small mistake can lead to big consequences, such as physical injury or ruining relationships. , and relationships are built on trust. Otherwise, it's easy to damage relationships.

Many people might have negative relationships with parents and other people due to past karma, and only On Relationships The Buddha explained that there are four karmic relationships among people: Collecting Some families get along really well; that's probably a karmic relationship of repaying gratitude. Other families are full of conflict, which is influenced by a karmic relationship of collecting debt This is the intricate relationship between cause, condition, and effect.