Published Date: Sunday, June 2, 2019
This week's newsletter is about four agenda items for regularly scheduled relationship check-in meetings. The original context is for significant-other relationships*, but you can apply it to any important relationship (e.g., with your boss).
What I think I’ve been doing well (or better since the last meeting).
Where I think I've dropped the ball or could focus more on.
What I think you have been doing well.
What I'd love to see more of. [side note: wording is super important here]
These questions come from Tim Ferriss and his girlfriend after many iterations. They have their meeting monthly. He talks about this near the end of his podcast episode 371.
*I know you might think "It feels weird to have regularly scheduled relationship meetings with a significant other." But such a relationship is largely about teamwork, which requires effective communication. And these four questions get at the core of what needs to be communicated. Not to go too far off on a tangent, but divorce rates have been increasing from 18% in 1920 to 67% in 1990**. If you want above-average results, you'll have to go above what the average person is willing to do.
**Source: Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman, Chapter 9
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